Having a healthy and balanced sense of self-esteem is a major key to living a healthy and happy life. There are two sides to every coin,
however. Sometimes self-esteem can become something else – namely, an unbalanced ego. So how do you know if you are simply being confident, or if you are deceiving yourself?
A healthy self-esteem is one where you have the confidence, to be honest with yourself, and love yourself no matter what. Healthy self-esteem encourages you to live your life to the fullest, make bold but good choices, and keep going if and when mistakes are made.
Unhealthy self-esteem goes two ways. On the one hand, unhealthy self-esteem leaves you with zero confidence as well as an often unrelenting fear of making mistakes which often leads to poor quality of life. This is typically called low self-esteem. Self Care doesn’t have to cost a thing though.
On the other hand, over-inflated self-esteem is also unhealthy. This is a form of self-deception that tricks you into thinking that you are better than everyone else and that you can do anything, even to the point of ostracizing your friends and family.
The Dangers of Unbalanced Self-Esteem
Either way, an unbalanced sense of self-esteem can lower your quality of life. People with low self-esteem often miss out on some of the best things that life has to offer. Either they are too afraid to make a mistake, or they feel that they are not worthy of happiness. It is a type of existence that only holds you back.
An over-inflated sense of self-esteem puts you in danger of losing friends and close relationships. Outwardly, people with an over- inflated sense of self-esteem come off as cocky or mean. They tend to have trouble gaining and keeping close, loving relationships because they come off as being less than genuine.
Lying to Yourself
Typically, however, inflated self-esteem is generally a sign of the exact opposite. Most people like this are hiding their true selves and are actually riddled with low self-confidence. The false mask of bravado is not true self-esteem, and this confidence is really just a form of self-deception.
Understanding the Meaning of Self-Esteem
Self-esteem is defined as confidence in your own self-worth, and a sense of self-respect. You are not respecting yourself if you do not believe you are worthy of respect and happiness, nor are you respecting yourself by hiding behind an inflated ego.
Be Honest with Yourself
To truly find your own self-worth and build true and balanced healthy self-esteem, you have to first be honest with yourself. Stop hiding behind fear or a false sense of confidence. Often, being honest with yourself is harder than being honest with an outside person.
A self-esteem is truly a balancing act that everyone has to work on. To build healthy and balanced self-esteem you must first and foremost be honest with yourself. Only then can you start to work on your view of the world as a whole and make real changes that could change your life for the better
9 thoughts on “The Balancing Act of Self-Esteem”
Great post! I think we’ve all known others who we could slot into these categories. Self-esteem is truly a continuous work in progress.
Thank you, I’m glad you liked it. You’re right it is an everyday fight for self-esteem.
Excellent post, self-esteem is so important. More so than people realise. I have always struggled with varying self-esteem issues across my life. There is a balance.
Yes it definitely is a balancing act for sure and you’ve nailed how to do it here. Thanks so much for sharing!
Thanks for sharing this post, Leslie! I enjoyed your breakdown of healthy, low, and over-inflated self-esteem and how they can affect you. The post had great flow and was super easy to read too!
Low self-esteem is always something I have to keep working on. You gave a good perspective for the other end of the spectrum too, so thank you for that reminder.
You’re welcome. I still struggle with it too, it’s personal so sometimes it’s hard to do the hard work.
Self-esteem is so important to build and i like that you talked about both of the unhealthy sides of self-esteem. Thanks for sharing!
This is such an important topic. We need a healthy understanding of what SEO-esteem is really about. Loved this!